Salut, Enchanté
Two years later and I still don’t know a lot about you — A Nigerian Man
It’s very easy to assume that people know you or your values based on daily interactions but after one very introspective conversation, I realized that I often group my friendships by ‘buckets’. There are people who only see the serious, work and finance loving side of me, the ones who see the goofy, funny, messy side, those who see the introverted girl seating alone reading a book, those who see the girl with the often controversial takes on issues, those who see the spiritual side and those who see the caring, doting sister side and those who have seen it all.
I often fail to communicate who I am and what I stand for. This is quite disappointing because I consider communication one of my strong skills because I am constantly speaking and I like talking.
So this post really is a shortcut for those who know me but don’t really know me, those who have never met me but are following my medium (I am so grateful for you), for my next potential love interest, for those who just love reading all my posts, for everyone I have met and will meet — Nice to meet you all (again).
Like everyone else, I am a walking contradiction and all these are true for me as of now, my views may change as I grow and evolve but for now:
I am a Christian and Feminist. Christianity doesn’t need any introduction abi? So that is covered. People often take the declaration of feminism as a man-hating, ‘insert all your other negative thoughts/stereotypes’ stance, but all these couldn’t be farther from the truth. Feminism is simply about equality and fairness, do your ‘googles’ if you want to know more.
I love to talk. I have strong opinions on many issues and I have strongly considered going on the radio or starting my own podcast/youtube channel so I can have an outlet but then, who is going to see it through? I am always ready to listen to opposing views/thoughts (not without an argument though, because who doesn’t love a good argument?) and I am not afraid to change my mind. I also am not scared to say ‘I don’t know’ or just be quiet when I have no knowledge of the subject being discussed.
I love to dance which I am not quite good at either but as I have famously said, I dance to the rhythm as I feel it in my heart. On the other hand, I am not really a music person, I would rather listen to a podcast. On occasions when I listen to music, it is because of the mundaneness of the tasks at hand or for a quick energy boost.
I like to read. I have a book in my bag or phone I am supposed to be reading at all times. I have been known to abandon my exam preparations to read a really good book. Confession, I reward myself with junk food and a new book when I feel like I have a good week. However, I have recently been struggling with reading because of all the adult and serious books I am expected to be reading at this stage in my life. Yes, I know I shouldn’t live by other people’s rules but here we are.
I like to write. Not because the words flow easily all the time but because it is a release for me. I used to have a page on Instagram where I wrote about my unemployment thoughts and challenges to help others, it is called the unemployment journal. The cobwebs on there are going down soon because I feel ready to restart that even though I am now gainfully employed. I also recently started writing down my thoughts on here and I have enjoyed the journey so far.
I would love a day where I can go on rides (think theme parks, amusement park, Disneyland, etc. kinda thing) and just eat sugar-filled junks and pastries and just run around in silly outfits and relive the childhood Nigeria didn’t let me have in one day.
I like to think I am openminded or progressive and I still mostly root for the capitalist, blame this on my economics training, and my entrepreneurial friends and family.
I love to talk about career and personal finance. If you know me, you know I like money and the good things this can buy for you. Financial stability is also very key to me and because I am not greedy, I share all my nuggets, tips, tricks, and knowledge with all my friends whether they care to ask or not; I just want all of us to win together. Oh, do check out my page on Instagram @theunemploymentjournal, I would be writing more there now, I promise.
I am very proud of my Yoruba Heritage and my accent. The only modification that would be happening to my accent is to properly pronounce/enunciate my words. I think accents tell a story about you, your background, and where you have been, hopefully, I never change mine because as much as I love to hate it, Omo Naija ni mi.
I wish I was multilingual, I have put in a lot of effort into this but we are still on the road to success. My Yoruba is abysmal at best. I have been learning French, tried learning German and Dutch as well. Not giving up on Yoruba or French though.
I like to run and take really long walks when I feel sad or confused but I can’t swim or cycle. Recently, I joined a cycling club, I have borrowed a bicycle and now I am pedaling. Babysteps but then, I am doing the thing.
I am a first child, many people think either lastborn or only child, I don’t know why.
I am an ambivert. I am shy but can be outspoken. My voice is also really loud and I can really shout.
Most of my closest friends have been from childhood/teenage years. I suck at keeping in touch but I always think about my friends and send mind hugs to them.
I am a bit of a know it all.
I swear allegiance to only sugar. No stan culture or freaked about anything else other than sugar and proper junk food.
I enjoy tasks such as washing dishes because that is where I do my best thinking, there is a clarity that comes from there. Washing dishes to me is what morning poop is to others.
There you have them, really random facts about me. I would really love to know you so tell me the most random things about you.
